40 Experiences Every Queen Over 40 Should Have

From health and wealth to travel and good sex — you deserve the best this world has to offer. So, whether you’re looking to round out your bucket list or simply trying to live your best life, make plans to add these experiences to your agenda.

The thrill of learning a new skill. Safiya Robinson, 44, of, Christ Church, Barbados, recently picked up sewing and Pilates. She’s also learning to play the steel pan. “It’s been a great way to relax, to build confidence and have fun,” she says. “And now that I know myself better and don’t take myself so seriously, I’ve tried things I have avoided in the past.”

The freedom and flow of creativity. Unlock your creativity and make something that’s never existed before. Pick up a paintbrush. Write poetry. Or enjoy organic movement in a somatic dance class. 

The pride of accomplishment. Why wait to congratulate yourself for writing that book, running that half-marathon or starting that business? Celebrate every completed chapter, mile or page of your business plan. 

Triumph over fear. After turning 40, Bisa Myles, who lives near Chicago, was determined to conquer her fear of water. “I took group and private swim lessons for over a year,” she says. “In 2019, at 45, I went snorkeling in Zanzibar, Tanzania.”

A natural high. Diane Hawkins, 54, of Louisville, Kentucky, recently discovered zip-lining. “After I closed my eyes and stepped off the ledge, I was thrilled that I actually went through with it — while screaming at the top of my lungs!” she says. “I’ve been inspired to take on a new challenge every day.” Our spirits soar when we take in a sweeping view from above, be it from a skyscraper observation deck, a roadside scenic lookout, a Ferris wheel, hot air balloon, airplane or amazing drone footage of a natural wonder such as a waterfall .

The bliss of sexual pleasure. Yes, you can have amazing orgasms even after 40. This could be from mind-blowing sex with your partner or you can fly solo. Whether you use your fingers or your favorite sex toy, self-pleasing can help prevent vaginal atrophy and help you learn more about your body.

Confidence in your sex appeal. Maybe a boudoir photo shoot could help remind you that your sex appeal has no expiration date. Or try buying and wearing some sexy lingerie just for yourself. If it’s in your budget, check out these luxe lingerie pieces for the grown and sexy.

The delight of being pampered. Carla Henry-Lewis, 55, of Montgomery, Alabama, stepped up her self-care routine with a hot stone massage. “The pressure and heat from the stone add an extra level of repose,” she says. “The first time I had a hot stone massage every tissue in my body felt love.” If you don’t want to stop with a massage, plan an entire day of rest and relaxation at one of these Black-owned day spas.

The joy of real friendship. A well-rounded sister circle is good for the soul. So, challenge yourself to make the effort to have more fulfilling friendships.

The rewards of being a mentor. If you can’t commit to a formal mentorship program, even an occasional conversation can have a great impact on the life of a young person. Be the woman you needed as a girl.

The glow you get from giving back. Volunteer, donate or help spread awareness by simply talking to others about the issues that matter most to you.

The serenity of a space that’s just for you. This sacred space can be your prayer closet, meditation room, where you go to journal, or just your place for winding down after a long day.

The calm of clutter-free living. No matter where you live, make your home your sanctuary by getting rid of clutter for good.