Striving to be all you can be is an admirable quality. But the pressure we put on ourselves to be flawless can bring us down emotionally and physically. So what if you haven’t lost that last five pounds, landed your dream job or found your soul mate yet? With this powerful “Perfectly Imperfect” playlist, we invite you to let go of any preconceived notions that you should be anyone other than who you are, right here and now — flaws and all. We know you’re still working on your masterpiece! To help drive this message of self-love home, we’ve compiled 22 self-compassion and self-esteem boosting songs from Beyoncé, Alicia Keys, Fantasia, India.Arie, Jessie J, Christina Aguilera, Grace Jones and more.

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About the Author
A fan of music, dance and cats, Tracy E. Hopkins is a lifestyle and culture writer who has contributed to numerous print and digital publications, including Essence, Woman's Day, Prevention, Fodor's and Entertainment Weekly.
A fan of music, dance and cats, Tracy E. Hopkins is a lifestyle and culture writer who has contributed to numerous print and digital publications, including Essence, Woman's Day, Prevention, Fodor's and Entertainment Weekly.
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